IIT, IIM, SSB -- there is no dearth of examples of glorious places where you wanted to be, but didn't make it. Because, what are the odds -- a handful of seats and millions of people competing to claim one for themselves.
In 2015, there are places online where you can vent, places where you can ask why
you should be alive any more
? Did you give an iota of thought to why you want to be in one of those places at all? What drives you? Let's take a look at a handful of reasons why you should consider living on.Why should I live? Reason 1."All men must die" -- ha!
Every human must die. Isn't that reason enough? For me, it is. But if you seem more ambitious than I (which you very likely are at this point) and more of a train-wreck than I at the same time. So, if you are in a rush to die, allow me to give you another reason. Read on.Why should I live? Reason 2.Find another means. You are not there yet. Did you mean to quit?
You should live because IIT or IIM, or whatver it is, is a means to an end, not an end in itself.
Live to find out what you love, what drives you, and find another means to get there. You don't kill yourself if you miss a bus, or two buses for that matter. You find a rick. You find a taxi. You hitchhike! You find a way. You don't cry every time you miss the chosen means.
Now for your other problem, people who laugh at you and call you dumb are very likely to do so every time you stumble in life. That would have been true even if you got what you wanted today. You have a choice to either ignore them and get back on your feet or waste your energy listening to them.
If you should be more worried about anything at all right now IMO, it's how much you are affected by people laughing at you, not how you didn't make it into an exam taken by 13 lakh people for 10000 seats.Why should I live? Reason 3.There's still a race yet to be picked. Pick your races wisely. Learn from the ones you didn't.
All of us have a compass and orientations of our own. We have the ability to decide whether we're heading in the right direction -- we're naturally happy when we are heading in that right direction, regardless of what everyone in the world says. If you want to make it to a goal A, the first thing you need to continuously evaluate is whether A is towards the top (where you'll be happy) or towards the bottom of a pit (where you'll be sad and alone forever).
A wise guy told me -- "you should always race to the top; abandon a race that seems to be towards the bottom of a pit". I don't believe life is a race; but many things in life are indeed races. There's nothing wrong in abandoning a race. If you're not wise enough to pick your races, you are not wise enough to survive your victory, even if you do manage to win.